God who knows all things knows every action and every reaction.  True forgiveness is when we give up our desires to retaliate and move on.  It doesn’t excuse misbehavior or condone it, it just means forgive.  True forgiveness is unconditional.  A person may ask for forgiveness which makes it a little easier, but usually a person will not ask. 

Forgiveness does not mean we have to become best friends with one who continues to cause harm.  Forgiveness does not mean we have no memory of the hurt.  Forgiveness means we are ok with who we are in Christ no matter what others say or do.  Focusing on God and the path He wants us to walk will make opinions and actions of others not matter so much.  When God is pleased He will encourage us, protect us and comfort us.

Ok, so somebody doesn’t like our looks or somebody speaks evil against us when we have given our best to them.  Jesus is Lord over all things.  Somebody didn’t keep their word time and time again.  Jesus knows.  Jesus Comforts.  Jesus handles the other person.  Jesus is very definite when He says vengeance is His.  We do not have to worry about it.

Romans 12:19

 Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say,

“I will take revenge;
    I will pay them back,
    says the Lord.